A Gift for Dad
In these days of equality, and even more so as we approach Father’s day, it seems only fair to give dad’s equal attention. Mums get the main share of the parenting honours, and let’s be honest they deserve every bit they receive. So for the next few minutes (ladies I’m sure you won’t mind making way for them) I want to talk about men, in fact a very specific group of men.. fathers.
The times when families traditionally honour dads, on their birthday, at Christmas, or on some other special day, the eyes and ears of children, regardless of their age, and spouses perk up. They seek to find a gift for their dad, for some it’s just a token whilst others scan stores or undertake furious Internet searches. Our families wonder whether to wrap us in a bathrobe, fill us with food, surprise us with tools, or just cover us with kisses and hugs.
If I know dads, most of them blush no matter what you do. They are so used to providing, receiving is a little weird. Occasionally it is downright embarrassing! Most dads are quick to say to their families (with pardonable pride):
“Look, don’t worry just relax . . . and leave the striving to us!”
I want you to take a few moments to think about your father. Just take a moment to ponder on what that one individual has contributed. Think about his influence over you, his investment in you, his insights to you. Picture his face, the lines that are now permanently etched in your mind.
Listen again to the echo of his voice, that infectious laugh, those unique expressions that emerge through the treasure of memory. Feel his hands wrapped around yours, his strong, secure arm across your shoulders. Remember his grip that once spoke of a balanced mixture of gentleness and determination, compassion and manhood, the power of his words, not only his, “I understand,” but also his, “now, it’s time to sort this!”
Remember his walk. There is no other walk like his, I could spot my dad walking down the long street from a good distance away, there was just something about his walk! For your dad it may be his sure steps. That inimitable stride. Arms swinging and back arched , head tilted just so.
Best of all, take time to recall how he modelled character. The word is integrity.
As you read this, take a moment to remind yourself of just one or two choice moments in your past when he stood alone, when he stood by you, when he stood against insurmountable odds, when he provided that shelter in your time of storm. When he protected you from the bitter blast of life’s harsh consequences. When he chose to say, “I forgive you,” instead of, “why, you ought to be ashamed!”
What wonderful memories!
With such a great legacy which time can never erase, give God thanks. Thank the Giver of every good and perfect gift for the meaningful investment your dad has sown into your life and character , the wholesome habits he has woven into the fabric of your flesh. Whilst you are pondering in the treasure chest of memories remember the proverb that says:
A righteous man who walks in his integrity – How blessed are his sons [and daughters] after him.
That is so true! We are so blessed! We are beneficiary in a continuous, fatherly policy. For the balance of our life, we receive the dividends from our father’s wise and sacrificial investments in ‘integrity stock’. Most of those dividends were unknown and unclaimed until we grew up and became aware of our inheritance. We may not have realized until recently how richly endowed we really are!
Our dad is not perfect; painful though it is, he would be the first to admit it. Neither is he infallible, much to his own disappointment. Neither is he altogether fair , nor always right. But there’s one thing he is always, he is your dad , the only one you’ll ever have. Take it from me, when the time comes for gift-giving, there’s only one thing he needs. Plain and simple, he needs to hear you say:
“Dad, I love you.”
That’s the best gift you can give. If you give him your love, you can forget all the other stuff that comes with a price tag. Nothing you could buy will bring him anywhere near the satisfaction that those four-word gift will provide.
As you consider a gift for dad this Father’s day, look him in the eye or call him on the phone and give him the gift he needs more than anything.
Give him your love.